On boundaries and love
I’m learning how to say “no thank you” when the feelings say yuck, then not call myself a bitch while stayin’ sexy. That’s hard shit to reprogram and it doesn’t happen alone or overnight.
Everyday I stay a little longer with myself in my no, and more in love with my yes.
I don’t want anyone to have so much power over me that they steal MY sexy-ass-no, or even worse try to spare me from their sexy-ass-no. A no can be a yes to something else and it can also mean FUCK NO.
I want people to tell me no when they are not feeling “it” too! I really love when people honor their boundaries with me and are lovingly clear with me, I hate resentment–it makes me sick, like really blah.
My disappointment is my problem.
Your vulnerability is a gift, share it.
~And vice versa~
I want to learn how to love you the way you want to be loved and I want to teach you how I want to be loved!
Intimacy is a choice, that often gets uncomfortable to get comfortable.
Say what’s needing be said vulnerably–lead with your feelings, empathize, say what you desire, have boundaries for the sake of treasuring the connection, and occasionally, even often, disappointment is a part of the process. 
And if that all sounds like garbage to you, don’t do any of it. 
